eden | 21 | they/she | virgo | witch | lesbian | neurodivergent | pfp by PotatoLord (picrew)
fireball whiskey can be put in milk to make FIRE MILK
eat some protein if you are feeling FATIGUED
visit garage sales if you want to find DEALS ON BELT SANDERS
what we'll learn next week is still shrouded in darkness
friendships with people you can actually talk about stuff with and have healthy boundaries and respectful disagreements >>>> weird shallow friendships full of “i love youuu i would die for you ur my wife” and baby talking
Dni if you have rounded, forgettable, prey-like eyebrows
Tiktok is a mental illness. Body dysmorphia doesn't even cover it anymore... this is in a league of its own.
literally the nose and eyeliner and chin and lips and cheekbones are photoshopped to look different.... maybe its not the eyebrows making her look like a prey animal and instead the fact that you used photoshop to babify her
parents got a new cat they named lord montague and this morning i heard my dad in the other room say "i would have to advise against that decision, my lord" followed by a crashing sound
A note on the topic of trauma that I personally found helpful in accepting the idea that I am a trauma victim is that one of the most widely accepted facts in the field of trauma research is that abuse is often not the common factor in whether somebody will develop ptsd.
Many people can go through awful things without developing trauma based disorders as long as they receive compassion and support in processing those events as they happen. The most common factor in developing something like ptsd is emotional neglect. And emotional neglect on it’s own can be enough.
Whatever you went through was enough I promise, you’re not overreacting. Abuse and neglect are traumatic at any level, you don’t need to have gone through the worst possible experience you can think of to develop ptsd. If it hurt you then it hurt you.
…..oh.
And to support that, the number one determining factor on how badly something affects a person is how they’re treated afterward, not how objectively bad the event was. They’re called resiliency factors.
It looks like this:
Horrible brutal traumatic event + Family and community support + legal amelioration + closure and therapy and help
ONE MILLION TIMES MORE LIKELY TO RECOVER THAN
Event that the sufferer may think “seems minor” compared to what others have been through + Family neglect and abuse (you deserved it, name calling, support the abuser) + no legal means + denial and stifling and no therapeutic support
I have been raped, I have been abused by someone who was supposed to be family to me, and I have recovered and gotten my life back together. I have psychiatrists, psychologists, best friends, lovers, and family who support me. I did not get legal justice, but I got the person(s) out of my life.
My friend was repeatedly verbally abused by his step-parent, and when he was abused and hurt by others he was blamed for it by that parent. He had no support and no one to talk to about it for over 10 years.
He still feels guilty for even being affected by it and I’ve had long talks with him about how it isn’t “nothing compared to” what I went through.
You are not wrong to be upset. You are not wrong to feel the effects of trauma. Your hurt cannot be measured against anyone else’s. Your resiliency is your own and your situation is valid to you. Perception is everything. The worst thing that ever happened to you might ostensibly be less bad than the worst thing that ever happened to me - but it still is what happened to YOU.
Trauma is so predictable that we can make tidy little equations out of it. The ones above are good, but the ones I’ve seen are a little simpler. Something like:
Overwhelming Experience + Isolation + Shame = PTSD
Whoa. I am going to have to think about this for a bit–it would explain the HUGE difference in two post-trauma experiences I’ve had (one without support and one with.) Wow.
Since the only way our fresh government managed to get rid of a literal nazi as a minister was when foreign press started taking notice... It would be a shame if some recent developments gained international attention :-)
Today I had a full non-verbal shutdown for the first time in years. I’ll spare you specific details because they’re a) not important, and b) personal, but I’ll give you the gist. This morning, my carefully constructed plans were majorly (and I mean majorly) thrown off at the last (and I mean the LAST) minute. This provided me not only with a major routine change, but also with two simultaneous very difficult decisions (one of which involved a large amount of money) that I was expected to make quickly. As you can imagine, this sent me into a total state of shutdown where I was completely unable to move, speak, eat, or process any information, let alone make a damn decision.
Autism can suck. Even if you love being autistic and wouldn’t change it for the world and don’t want there to be a cure, that doesn’t mean it’s always easy and fun. This is the part of autism that fucking sucks and can be embarrassing to talk about, especially when you’re an adult who’s expected to be beyond this. But the point of this post is to show you that you’re not alone if you feel this way too. It’s okay to recognise when something is too much for you to handle and to remove yourself from the situation until you feel like you are more prepared to tackle it. Even if other people are counting on you or awaiting your response, they can learn to wait. It’s better for them to receive a late response when you have a clearer head than an immediate response made when you’re in a heightened emotional state. If you really need to, you can even straight up tell them - “I’m not equipped to make a rational decision right now. I will get back to you as soon as I am.”
Know your boundaries. Know when something isn’t possible for you, no matter what other people think. And know that you are loved, appreciated and valued, just the way you are.
a person online: i hate it when adults act like childish little freaks in public, smh. you’re an adult, you should be able to order your own food without help. get over yourself. also, why are some people, like, waaaaaaay too into the stuff that they like? omg, and the people who CLEARLY can’t even have one (1) normal conversation without acting Weird??? it’s embarrassing, u guys are embarrassing, get help
the same person five seconds later: we gotta remember to love and support the autistic community u guys <3
